Oh - no, nothing like that. Neither respond well to intimidation! Be casual. I plan to tell them that the Day of Remembrance is a tonne of trifling work that would be a waste of their valuable time, and make it seem I'm doing a favour to them. Oh, and I'll say that I've got you and Justin minding some of the lesser details - they should like that, especially if you seem a little unenthusiastic about it.